Vulnerability in business. Brene BrownI was at event a couple of weeks ago where the topic of being vulnerable in business came up and the question of how much is too much to reveal started getting tossed around.

I get this question from my clients all the time.

A lot of people feel that if they reveal too much about what they’re struggling with, it will be turn off to potential clients.

When I first started my business, I was very invested in giving the appearance of having it all together and being successful–even when I was a hot mess.

But what I’ve learned over the years is the more you allow yourself to be vulnerable, the more it allows people to connect to you.

My teacher, Mark Silver once wrote a newsletter about a program launch he did and some huge mistake that was made in the process. I remember feeling such a sense of relief.  The thought that someone with a business the size of his could make such a big error gave me space to make mistakes and not have to feel like a total idiot because of it.

What a gift that was.

At the end of last year, he wrote a newsletter where he talked about how disappointed he was at how the year went in his business and how he was taking some time to grieve about all that didn’t happen.

At the time of reading that, I was trying to push past the fact that I had a very tough year personally and financially and put on a brave face and get on with it.

When I read that newsletter I started sobbing.

Someone else was having the exact same feelings I was about a similar situation and which allowed me to have some compassion for myself, instead of pushing the feelings down.

Neither of those newsletters made me think any less of him as a mentor or business coach.  As a matter of fact, the courage he displayed in sharing what was really going on in his business elevated him even more in my eyes.

I believe that sharing our struggle is a sacred act. 

Every time someone shows their vulnerability, it connects us to our own humanity and makes us want to move closer to them.  It lets us feel like we’re not the only ones having a hard time and knowing you’re not the only one goes a long way in the effort to bounce back from difficulty.

We’re all battling something.

I think what makes the screw ups most painful is the judgement–“it’s not OK, I should have known better.”  We somehow think other people don’t make those mistakes and that there’s something wrong with us when we do.​

When it’s not appropriate to share

There’s a big difference between putting out a personal story because you’re in pain and you can’t hold it in anymore and telling a vulnerable story because you know it will help someone else to see themselves in it and not feel so alone.

While it may not be appropriate to talk about something while it’s happening–you may want to save the story about your almost having to declare bankruptcy until you’ve arrived on the other side–telling that story to your life coaching clients after the fact will inspire them and help them to persevere.

In my experience, it’s been the times when I’ve written things that feel so raw and tender that I cringe when I hit send that have been the times where I get an overwhelming response from people.

We are all in this together.

Your struggle is someone else’s struggle, and when you take the time to share it openly and honestly you connect to the person’s heart, you let them see themselves, and you give them hope.

It takes a tremendous amount of bravery to be vulnerable.

Someone needs your bravery today–



Have you ever known what you really want to do but buried the idea because you think no one will want it?

Or are you running a business that doesn’t feel quite right or just feels like a lot of work?

Many of the people that I work with come to me for business coaching but what I’m really doing with them is helping to align their business with their purpose.

Because at some point (usually very early on) their original impulse for the work they wanted to do got thwarted.

I’ve worked with some of the most gifted, intuitive practitioners on their business and I’ve seen them go from being led by their intuition when they do their work to completely abandoning it when it came to working on their business.

Instead of allowing a vision for their work to emerge organically, they tried to figure out in their head what they should do and how they should offer their work.

The key to finding your soul work is to look at your own journey. Especially the things you’ve struggled with. Most especially the things that almost broke you.

That is what prepared you to do the work you’re meant to do.

If you want to get a picture of who your ideal client is, all you need to do is look in the mirror.

99% of the people I work with are the profile of their ideal client. They’re helping others with something they’ve either struggled with themselves or are passionate about because they’ve watched someone close to them go through it.

Life has exquisitely prepared them to do the work they’re meant to do.

But often what stops them from taking that path is they’re convinced that no one will want to pay for the work they want to do—or they need to make money now and have another way to do it, so they talk themselves into doing what feels like the more sensible thing.

What I find is that it’s usually less about the money and more about their own vulnerability.

The fear of being vulnerable and risking criticism and rejection shows up as fear of survival.
They end up doing the thing they think will earn money and burying the thing they know deep down inside that they’re meant for.

They’re convinced nobody will want it, when really they’re just terrified to put it out there because it’s so personal.

And I totally get it.

Ironically, worrying about money or trying to figure out how to make money doesn’t really help you make money. It’s actually the opposite. When you’re worried about money, you’re in survival mode and that cuts you off from your creativity and any and all divine assistance that might be on your path.

What helps you make money is to tap into your genius work and put it out in the world in a way that feels great to you.

The formula followed by all geniuses is: do what you like to do best and do it to the best of your ability.

Success comes as the automatic consequence of aligning one’s life with high power energy patterns.

How Do You Do That?

You do the thing that lights you up.

Or for some of us, you do the thing you’re truly passionate about, the thing you know life has prepared you for even though you’re scared shitless.

Following your passion and having a cause aligns you with your power.

Coming from a place of enthusiasm and inspiration is contagious.

When you’re inspired by the work you’re doing, you inspire others. And when you’re a source of inspiration, people want to be around you.

What Electricity Has To Do With Being On Purpose

When there is an electric current running through a wire, it creates a magnetic field around the wire. The higher the power of the current, the greater magnetic field it generates.

And so it’s the same with human beings. The more passion and joy you have around an activity the more magnetic you become.

Passion and enthusiasm generate power.

When you get to the place where you see how the struggles you’ve been through in your life have prepared you to help others with the same issues your business is aligned with your purpose.

I’ve seen this over and over. Clients stop doing what they think they should do and start doing what they want to do and clients start showing up

Following your heart is a business strategy.

But What About Making a Living?

Don’t get me wrong–it’s not that you don’t have to have systems and structures to get your work out in the world–it’s just that when it comes to claiming the work you’re going to do–deciding what problem you want to solve and who you want to solve it for–that’s an inside job.

When I work with my clients we are either in one of two spaces.
the CREATION space or the STRATEGY space.

The CREATION space is where your dreams and talents and purpose lie.
The CREATION space is where the work you want to do in the world lives
The CREATION space is where the words to describe your work and your mission exist.

STRATEGY space is the actions you take to get your business out there. It’s writing newsletters, networking, creating strategic partnerships, blogging, doing webinars, all the actions you take on behalf of growing your business
You are in your right brain when you are accessing the Creation Space and your left brain when you are accessing the strategy space.

When you are in the CREATION SPACE you don’t allow in questions like:

“Will anyone want to pay for this?”
“What can I do that people will want?”
“What if no one responds?”
“What will my friends/husband/family/anyone whose opinion means something to me think?”
“Will I be able to make a living with this?”

When these thoughts come up and you engage with them, it prevents you from getting access to the work you’re meant to do in the world.

Here’s the thing to remember–when you are in your power–money flows from there.
The goal is to do great work.
The outcome is money.

The big mistake entrepreneurs make is they focus on how to make money as opposed to doing great work.

They’re chasing the outcome instead of focusing on achieving the goal.

The more worried you are about getting clients and making money, the more you get into thinking and strategy and get out of feeling and using your intuition. And you keep getting further and further away from your creativity and it’s your creativity that’s going to make you money. It’s your passion that’s going to draw people to you.


OK so now you might be thinking really, can it just be that easy?

Coming up with a niche, branding and positioning for your business is about listening to your own voice, having the courage to do things your way and not following the herd. And that’s what I help people do. It definitely doesn’t come from trying to figure out what people want or what will sell. Not when you’re in the business of healing, self-help, or transformation.

The big secret to getting your business totally stand out from everyone else’s is to be yourself–completely and unapologetically.

That’s what will support you in being successful. When you’re being yourself and working with who you really feel called to work with and you’re doing your genius work things become effortless. You remove all resistance. Because you’re in the flow.

So the first step is listening to the still small voice inside that’s telling you what you came here to do. So you’ve got to get out of your head and into your heart. Then it’s positioning that work in a way that speaks to those you want to help..

Once you have that foundation in place THEN you can start to listen to your audience (the ones who value what you do and the way you do it) and see what they need.

That’s what I call the second intersection which is the place where the work you love doing and the problem your ideal client is struggling with meet.

The idea that you have to do something that is meaningless to you just to earn a paycheck is old outdated thinking left over from the industrial revolution.

And we all need to let that crap go.


This is a NEW time

WE are creating the new paradigm.

I believe that in the next generation, the idea that someone would take a career path that wasn’t based in their gifts and passions because they thought it was secure will seem as outlandish as bloodletting to cure disease does to us now.

We are here to turn the tide.

Yes. You. Can.



Today I’m going to take a detour from our regularly scheduled programming which was originally going to be about launch strategies.

There’s something else on my mind that I’d like to share with all of you.

It has been my great to joy to have a business that supports the coaching and holistic communities by helping them to create marketing messages, services and programs that speak to the needs of their ideal clients while making them money.

But there is a big WHY behind what I’m doing that I haven’t really expressed. Not that I’ve been keeping it a secret, but I’ve had too many other things that I wanted to use this space for that felt a lot more urgent.

But because of what I’ve witnessed over the last year, my WHY is more urgent than ever.

My strategy for my clients who are working in the healing/self-improvement space has always been to help them to position and package their work so they can get it in front of those who need them desperately but don’t know they exist.

I give them strategies to get physicians, chiropractors and other traditional health care providers as referral partners. I help them to create programs that can be done inside hospitals, rehab centers, and nursing homes.

This has been the only way I know how to fulfill my mission—which is to bridge the gap between alternative healing and western medicine and to make alternative healing modalities part of the medical and corporate systems in this country.

This is why I do what I do.

Why I Can’t Take It Anymore

In January 2014, my father-in-law fell and broke his hip. He was 84 years old at the time. He had surgery to mend the break and then 4 weeks of rehab. When he returned home he still was unable to walk without assistance because the pins in his hip had come loose so he underwent a second surgery which was a partial hip replacement.

After hospitalization and another 4 weeks of rehab, that surgery was also unsuccessful. He got a staph infection in the hip socket so the replacement had to be removed. There was a third surgery that resulted in hip dislocation and now it’s more than a year since he fell and he is awaiting his fourth surgery.

In that time I’ve seen him get weaker and weaker and more and more frightened and frail. They are afraid that even if the surgery goes well, he won’t be able to do the rehab because he is terrified that he will fall again. I believe that his muscles are in spasm because of the fear he’s holding. And because he has been through so much, he’s physically and emotionally drained.

In addition there have been oceans of pain meds and months and months of powerful antibiotics destroying his digestive tract and immune system.

Through all of this, there was never any discussion about his nutrition or supplements to strengthen his bones by any of his doctors. (Big surprise)

And I think…

So much could change if he were to work with a holistic health coach to help him get the nutrition he needs to undergo this next surgery and rehab.

But he and my mother-in-law don’t understand the power of diet and using food as medicine and so don’t see the value of working with a health coach. I tried to have a discussion of giving him green smoothies or green juice which went nowhere. They just aren’t in that world and don’t have the right information.

In my opinion he would benefit tremendously from any kind of energy healing to release the fear he’s been holding and to help him with the stress of the situation.

Again, that’s not something my in-laws understand.

And this kills me.

It is time for the new paradigm of healing to take hold and the only way that’s going to happen is if you know how to use your marketing to educate those who have no idea what your work is but may be in dire need of it.

I am a master at this and have taken hundreds of practitioners and coaches through this process and brought them to clarity.

So I am making this offer to anyone who is reading who’s having a hard time getting out there with their business or who just isn’t getting enough clients.

Because there are thousands of people in situations similar to my father-in-law and they have no idea that there is SO MUCH help out there for them.

Please let me help you.

If you scroll down to the bottom of this page, you will see my free gift:  Claim Your Niche: 6 Keys For Coaches and Holistic Practitioners.  Working with this e-book and meditation is the first step toward making your work understandable to those who need your help.  You will also get my newsletter where I give tools and tips for marketing a holistic business along with news about webinars and courses.

The world needs you and it needs your work.




I Can’t Stand When People Are Vague

by Cathy on February 8, 2015

You know what really pisses me off?

When coaches tell you what to do, but not how to do it.

So here’s part two of last week’s topic:  How Much Is Too Much?.

And if you weren’t interested in the topic the first time, then you sure don’t need to read this.

For everyone else, some more about promoting your offers because it’s an important topic and if it’s not done well, it can kill the success of your program.

Here’s the big mistake so many entrepreneurs make in their business—they don’t take the time to cultivate relationships and offer value to their list on a regular basis so that when they have something to sell, it feels salesey to send e-mails to their list multiple times.

Because then you’re just showing up in their inbox to ask them to buy from you.

And when you’re in a helping or healing service that just doesn’t feel right.

I can’t tell you how many people I see who just use their newsletter when they’re promoting a program.

If you’re marketing correctly—you’re providing value to your audience on a regular basis and when you’re promoting a program, you should still be providing value.

If you write a newsletter with information and takeaways about the topic you’re covering in your program then it shouldn’t feel weird to send it.

You continue to provide value, and have a narrative in all your e-mails about your program.

Your newsletter should offer one of following three things ALWAYS—


If you’ve taken the time to communicate with your list on a regular basis (whether it’s once a week, twice a month or once a month) they don’t mind hearing from you when you’re promoting a program even if the program is not of interest to them.

They know you care about them because you’ve shown them that through your communication.

Here’s the thing that doesn’t work: promoting a paid program on social media.

The strategy I’m giving you here is when you’re doing a small program and only promoting to your list which is a soft-launch.

If you want to go outside your list and are doing a bigger launch, then there’s a different strategy.

And I’ll be going over that in the next newsletter so stay tuned.
Questions, comments?

Let me know what you’re struggling with in terms of promoting your programs in the comments below.





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The Summer of I Don’t Know

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