This one’s for the girls (and the girl inside)

by Cathy on February 2, 2010

I’ve been doing a lot of looking back at my writing lately.  I came across this piece which is a letter that I wrote to read at the end of my performances of Thin Body Fat Mind that I did in High Schools from 2005-2008. I’m glad I kept it because it’s something that I need to remind myself of sometimes.

Dear Girls,

You look in the mirror and you don’t like what you see.  You criticize, berate, and think you need to fix it.  You ignore the inside as if it doesn’t exist.

You are blind to your gifts, your beauty, and your female exquisiteness.
You are like the hungry beggar, begging for change while sitting on a pot of gold.

You can compare yourself to others and always find ways to come up short or you can become your own advocate, get on your own team and stop waging war against yourself.

I AM THE ONE THAT I WANT.

It has taken me years to realize that when I’m tearing myself down it’s because I’m starving for my own acceptance and approval.

I AM THE ONE THAT I WANT.

It’s what I say to myself when I’m out in the world and I think I don’t look good enough.  It’s what I say to myself when I feel that I need a person to react to me a certain way; it’s what I say to myself when I feel insecure and out of my element.

I AM THE ONE THAT I WANT.

I say it because at the core of my being I know that if I can’t feel good about who I am and what I’m bringing into the world, it doesn’t matter how good I look or how many compliments I get—if I feel ugly and worthless on the inside nothing that I can do to the outside is going to make up for that.

I AM THE ONE THAT I WANT.

I say it because it immediately connects me to a place in my self where I am perfect and lovable just as I am.  In that space I feel whole and content; I’m not focused on how I look or how I think I look–in that space I have my own approval which is what I’ve been looking for all along.

So my lovelies please take my advice:  When we’ve locked ourselves out of our own hearts, only we can let ourselves back in.  Become your most trusted and adoring friend, open your heart and walk inside.  It’s there that your true beauty resides–It’s who you are and what you give out in the world.
If you can’t see all that you are, you can’t be all that you are.
We are the ones we have been waiting for.
Feel your own love, it’s all around you,
Cathy

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  • Amelia

    What a beautiful and empowering image: “When we’ve locked ourselves out of our own hearts, only we can let ourselves back in.”

    Thanks for sharing the letter — maybe you should rerecord the song from Grease with this new chorus. I’d be happy to sing it to myself as a personal mantram. ; )

  • admin

    Thank you and I hadn’t even thought about the song from Grease. I think it’s a little to upbeat for the sentiment though.

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